What If I Don’t Have a Choice?

You don’t have to give in to pressure


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  • Heavy bleeding — soaking two or more pads an hour for two hours.
  • Severe abdominal or back pain.
  • Fever lasting more than 24 hours.
  • Foul-smelling vaginal discharge.1

Some women who “choose” to get a medication abortion actually don’t choose it at all. Rather, they feel pressured or are even forced against their will.2 If you find yourself in any of the following scenarios, you need to know that you always have the right to refuse any type of abortion.

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If you are in an unsafe or dangerous situation or if you are being threatened, please call 911 or go to an emergency medical facility.

What If Clinic Workers Say Abortion Is Best?

Keep in mind that an abortion clinic will get paid if you choose abortion instead of parenting or adoption. The abortion pills and associated office work will typically cost you between $300 and $800.3 You may want to seek advice instead from a pregnancy medical center that will not profit from you, no matter what choice you make. For help finding one near you, please contact us or optionline.org. We can help you find a pregnancy center close to you.

Also, it’s often a good idea to get input from trusted family members, clergy, or youth leaders. After hearing your options from people who have your best interests at heart, you will be better able to make your decision.

What If My Family Makes Me?

Family members often have opinions about what is best for you. Listening to the people who love you is usually a good way to get some advice, but you need to know that legally, the decision is ultimately yours. Nobody, including parents or guardians, can force somebody to have an abortion unless her life is in danger.4 Under all normal circumstances, you have the right to refuse.

Contact Option Line at 1-800-712-4357 for help.

Be especially cautious if somebody is pressuring you into taking mail-order abortion pills or any other abortion pills that aren’t prescribed directly to you by a licensed medical provider. Well-meaning family may not realize how dangerous these pills are, especially when the pills don’t come from a trusted source and involve no help from medical personnel.

What if I am Brought Against My Will?

Sometimes people will drive you to an abortion clinic to try to force you to have an abortion. Or, they may purchase pills for you and attempt to force you to take them. If this is your situation, you need to immediately find help.

If you are at a clinic, let the clinic workers know that you are there against your will, and ask them to call the police. If you are at home or in someone else’s home, find a trusted individual, such as a case worker, teacher, etc., and tell them of your fears. Know that any cell phone can call 911, even if it doesn’t have a cellular company plan. You can also use wifi to connect to online texting and text 911 or contact your local emergency department or women’s shelter through social media. If one group or person doesn’t respond, keep trying. Help is out there.

Another organization that can help you is the Center Against Forced Abortions. This organization can provide information for you and for any clinic to which you may be taken.

What if I Don’t Want to Have Sex?

If someone is forcing you to have sex or perform sex acts, you need to know that this is never okay! No matter how it started, it is not your fault. Sometimes, people will use abortion to cover up their abuse. They don’t want to get in trouble, so they force someone else to have an abortion.

If you are being required to have sex or perform sexual acts (even without touching) in order to have a place to live or food to eat, or to be free from physical harm, you need help.  This type of situation is referred to as human trafficking, and it’s illegal.  Contact the human trafficking hotline website for help, call 1-888-373-7888, or text 233733.

What if They Take Me Away?

Some young women are taken out of the country because their parents or other family members are ashamed of their pregnancy. They may be taken to another place that doesn’t have the same laws or same protections. If you are afraid of this, please contact the police. If they try to fly out of the country with you, say something that will cause the TSA (the officials who check for security breaches at airports) to take you to a separate area so you can tell them your story. If you are being driven across the border, catch the attention of border police, and let them know you are being taken away against your will.

The Choice is Yours

Nobody can force you to have an abortion. Someone may try to make you feel guilty for getting pregnant, or they might try to make you feel like you have to get an abortion to protect them. There are many places that can help you have a safe and healthy pregnancy. These places will care for you and watch out for you. Contact optionline.org to find out more.

1 mayoclinic.org
2 jpands.org
3 americanpregnancy.org
4 legalmatch.com

Contact Us Any Time For Confidential Help

Please note that it may take us up to 48 hours to respond. If you need immediate assistance call Option Line at 1-800-712-4357 or text HELPLINE to 313131.

Have you already taken the abortion pill? Click here for help.

If you are in an unsafe or dangerous situation or if you are being threatened, please call 911 or go to an emergency medical facility.

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Sarah M. Bowen.

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